Keep the doors open
by O'Stoned After divorce many people become unsociable, and live with constant thoughts about previous life. No matter that their life now has become ‘previous’ already, and in reality doesn’t have any meaning for themselves. Cool, right? Is it you? No? Good for you! Then you definitely know what I’m talking about. Of course it will take a while before you could even start thinking out of the box. Even for ‘normal’ people it takes some time, he-he. Not talking about such dudes like you and me. But that’s the goal to achieve when you are depressed, ‘down and out’. … ..
Finding Love Again: Advice for the Divorced Woman
By Janet Blair Page, PhD, Author of Get Married This Year: 365 Days to "I Do" The legal freedom that comes from a divorce decree does not necessarily give you an emotional divorce or prepare you for the rest of your life. If you don't resist them hate, resentment, or a camp follower attitude can be the ruination of your happy future, keeping you tied to the man you know you should leave behind. Even if the final vote in your breakup was his not yours, you will live to see the day you can thank the man for leaving you but only if you can vow now to do what you need to do to recover and heal and to never ever be a victim. Divorcing is almost always painful and sad with anger and grief but being divorced -- that is an opportunity for an upgrade not a sentence to lifelong … ...
Date race after breakup
After the breakup of a relationship people tend to engage in a date race to see who will be the first to find a new dating partner. This practice is neither practical nor healthy and may lead to rebound relationships. Often people will become involved with someone that they're not particularly interested in as a means to get back at their ex. We've all seen examples of the date race game. He goes out with the sexiest girl he can find and his ex hooks us with a handsome guy that has a better job or more money. This type of reactive and emotional behavior only serves to indicate that one still cares about the person from the previous relationship. It seems the only logical reason as to why they would go to so much trouble. If the two people truly do still care about each other and want to … ...
Playing the dating game after divorce
Divorce is never an easy process for anyone – even if it has been an amicable break up. But for many people who do finally split after a long period of time they have not been single for a large part of their adult life. So, how do you adapt to living on your own after being co-dependent on someone else for so long? It really can be difficult. For many people who do go through divorce they will still have their friends, family and their children, but the solitude of being home alone can be very hard to deal with at times even depressing. However, there are ways to deal with this and things to focus the mind – perhaps even lessen the heartache. What is important to remember is to take things slow. A quick fix usually does not work, although we are all different. Remaining busy … ...
