There are some situations which signal that you may need some help in moving from married status back into the world as a newly-single person. Deciding whether you may fall into any of these categories and getting any help you may need will assist you in making the transition back into single life much easier.
If the marriage you have just left was abusive in nature, this is a sign that getting some help is a good idea and will benefit you both now and in the future. However, as it has become a trend to rely on countless types of “support systems,” this is generally counterproductive, for the point is to not unnecessarily delay your transition. Getting back into dating will benefit you in the longrun; but if the problems you encountered in your marriage were serious it would be a good idea to first seek some short-term, intense help in coming to terms with it and letting go. You will gain the most from your dating experiences if you are not focused on the bad things that happened in your previous marriage.
If you are having a great difficulty with not wanting to begin dating again after your divorce, this is another sign that you can benefit from some help. If you notice that you are isolating yourself, or having trouble interacting or communicating with others, you need to uncover and rid yourself of the reasons for this before you are able to enjoy dating. Dating after a divorce is an important step, but it is one which should not cause you an undue amount of stress.
On the other side of the spectrum, if you find yourself wanting to get into another relationship too soon, this also is negative. When you begin dating after a divorce, your focus should be on meeting many new people, enjoying your interactions with them, and having fun. The point is to relearn how to socialize within the context of being single, not seeing your casual dates as prospective new partners.
You may also need some outside help if you are having difficulty keeping your new social life separate from your family life. Whether this problem presents itself in the form of your children insisting on being a part of everything, or the people you are dating wishing to participate in your family or home life, or you yourself not being sure how to deal with this subject, it is wise to seek outside assistance.
Moving back into dating after divorce does not need to be traumatic, nor should it be. All it takes is foreseeing potential problems and being prepared to deal with them. It is important both to you and everyone else concerned for you to be willing to seek help if these problems do occur.