Several tips on how to chat with a guy
Finally you met each other privately – no matter whether it is a cafe, park or somewhere else. You need to be prepared to know him better. And conversation with a guy is the best way to learn about him and check whether you like him or not. First impression is not always right, but weighs a lot.
Where to start? Ask a lot of questions. Guys love it when girls show interest on them so be sure that you are genuinely interested by asking questions about him. For starters, ask about anything that is related to what he is saying. If there’s a need, ask about directions, the weather, or the time.
But what if you come across a quiet guy that seems to be difficult to talk to? Don’t fret; just because he is quiet does not mean that he is completely uninterested in you. Never tell a guy he is too quiet. No matter how much mucho he’s looking, he is much probably shyer than you are. Just start talking and don’t ask why he keeps silence – you’ll be rewarded soon! Be sure to make eye contact as he is replying, and don’t forget to smile. Show genuine interest in what he’s talking – this will help him open up.
When talking to a guy, make sure you ask about stuff that encourages him to open up and talk more about himself. After all, guys love the attention. Ask about what he does for a living, where he bought his shirt, if he comes to a certain place often, etc. Just be careful not to ask very personal questions like those pertaining to his income or his relationship with his mother.
If you find something he really likes (no matter how much you hate it) try to ask as much questions about that as you can. It will help him to get comfortable, develop interest in you and get closer in conversation. It can be his favorite sports, athletes, hobbies, travel etc.
Don’t ask questions about his ex women. First – do you really want to hear that? Sesond – he may be sadden by memories. Third – he may tell something you will never forget – it may destroy your relationships even before they start. You and I – that’s all what does exist in this given moment. All the rest, all previous experience just doesn’t exist. No ‘exes’. Find yourself a strength and wisdom to paint absolutely new relationships on a blank page.
Don’t tell about your problems. With parents, with job, neighbors etc. Keep it all positive. At least until you are very close.
Needless to say – no talks about the men from your past. If he asks – never say bad things about your ex men – better to refuse talking or say something like “it’s not a right time to talk about it”. Absolutely the best answer about why you separated with previous men is “we had very different characters that don’t match”.
Laugh at his jokes – no matter how lame or corny they are, because it brings him satisfaction that he is able to make you laugh. Just don’t go overboard or try too hard, otherwise, you’ll look like a fool. Remember, act naturally.