In the past few decades the rules of marriage, sexual equality, and divorce have changed significantly. In the days of our grandparents, women rarely worked outside the home. It was customary for them to become caregivers for their husbands and children. Wives and mothers were governed by unspoken rules that dictated appropriate and respectable behavior during that period.
The stigma of divorce in religion and society prevented women from ending their marriages in fear of being treated poorly and being negatively perceived after the divorce. Most married women were subservient to their husbands. Even an abusive, selfish, and demanding husband was still in charge. Everyone from their mother to their minister told these women to support their husbands and try to fix any issues that were making him unhappy. Marriage rarely meant, happily ever after. However, society has changed, and the stigma of divorce no longer prevents women from ending their marriages and starting their lives over.
Women today have college educations, careers, self-worth, and resolve. Stigmas and stereotypes are not as important as a person’s happiness and well-being. Now, it is the responsibility of both spouses to treat each other well, do their fair share, and show consideration. It is common for both men and women to contribute to the household income, take care of their children, and work cohesively to create a positive family dynamic.
Divorce is also more acceptable today because almost half of all marriages fail. The process is painful, but with the support of your friends, family, and a qualified divorce attorney, you can get through it. So how do modern men and women cope with divorces? While everyone is unique, studies show that there are many differences between men and women in the divorced population of modern culture.
Studies show men seem to have a more difficult time adjusting to a divorce than women in most cases. They suffer from health problems, such as high blood pressure, sleeping disorders, heart disease, and stroke. Men also may engage in risky behavior. Some data even suggests that men are more at risk for suicide than women after a divorce. They seem to lose their footing. Their parental position is threatened, and they are not sure where they fit in the world. Men do not have a support system to run to usually. In general, they must learn to create a new image of themselves and their lives.
Every case is different, but women often cope better with a divorce because of their resilience and adaptability. They are not as prone to make irrational decisions or take risks without thinking about the consequences. Women also tend to have larger support systems that allow them to talk about their feelings and grieve the end of the marriage. However, it is more common for women to become single parents raising their children alone without support from their ex-spouses. Women may cope with a divorce better than men, but they are often left to care for their children by themselves with fewer choices.
Men and women handle divorce differently. However, the most important party involved in every case is the children. It is critical that each spouse puts the needs of their children before their own. A divorce can be stressful and confusing for a child, especially when they witness arguments or one parent decides to move out. Children also cope with divorce in various ways. Some children may pretend nothing is wrong to make their parents happy while others may start to act out because of anger or sadness. Help children cope with changes by emotionally supporting them through this transition.
No matter what the reasons for a divorce, it is a trying and stressful time. Divorce is one of the most emotion fueled battles a family will ever go through. Even the most understanding spouses disagree with the painful process. Division of property and assets are difficult. Child custody, child support, visitation schedules, and alimony are also challenging topics. During a divorce, both adults must be flexible and willing to compromise. This may seem impossible at the moment, but with the help of an experienced attorney, you can divide property and assets, as well as agree to custody and visitation amicably.
Divorces can range from uncontested or without disagreements to contested or with complex assets and emotional issues. If you are facing a divorce alone, you need the services of a qualified and experienced attorney. Your attorney ensures you are treated fairly, and your parental rights are protected under the law. Many times, people will agree to the unlawful demands of an ex-spouse to void a conflict during the divorce. However, you may be entitled to property and assets that you could lose without the help of your attorney.
Contact a divorce attorney if:
- There are financial assets to divide
- There are inheritances involved
- Your spouse is angry or behaving in a vindictive manner
- Your spouse has an attorney
- There are children involved
- If retirement accounts are involved
Having an attorney to represent you allows the process to move quicker and restores peace to your life.
About the author:
Paul J. Duron is a highly skilled and experienced attorney in the field of family law. His dedication to the families he serves sets him apart from other attorneys. He brings empathy and compassion to every case and works diligently to ensure the fair and impartial treatment of his clients. Mr. Duron makes every effort to conduct a civil dissolution of the marriage, but if faced with a fight, he has the knowledge and skill to defend his clients. The law offices of Paul J. Duronis located in Long Beach, California.