Dating and getting into new relationships is scary at the best of times, but if you have been hurt in the past or have recently come out of a bad relationship it can sometimes seem even harder to get back on the horse and pursue true love and happiness. The good news is that it is only really a mental game; so here are some tips to help you through.
Believe in love
Divorce can be a draining experience and you may not be as confident as you once were, but fear of getting hurt can stop you from being happy. If this sounds like you it is important that you focus on positives – take your time and look for a partner who is willing to give you time – but don’t let a fear of commitment cause you to lose opportunities; just because your first marriage wasn’t all that you dreamed it doesn’t mean there isn’t the perfect man/woman out there somewhere.
Learn from past mistakes
One of the worst things that can happen to a divorcee is for history to repeat itself, so it is important that you recognise where you went wrong in the past. Also recognise what went right and try to build a relationship on strong foundations.
If you made mistakes first time round be strong enough to acknowledge them and work on them. Equally though, don’t blame yourself for things that were not your fault and don’t continue to go after partners who are all wrong for you.
Ask for help
Often in life your friends can see things that you cannot because you are too close. Don’t be afraid to ask close friends for their advice; equally though, allow them to be honest without fear of a backlash.
Often you should take any advice with a pinch of salt, but if you friends see you making the same mistakes again it is important you let them speak up and it is important that you listen to their concerns.
Whatever your age, it is important that you enjoy dating – for the first time in what is probably a long time you are free to be your own person again. This isn’t an excuse to go off the rails, but make sure you remember to enjoy dating and meeting new people.
Don’t constantly dwell on the past, instead look forward to the future – a positive attitude will increase your chances of making new bonds and will also make you happier in the mean-time.
This is probably the hardest part of all. After years of being with the same person being alone can feel very lonely and it is easy to get infatuated and rush into the next relationship. Try to come to terms with being on your own for a bit and enjoy your own company; it’s not easy to do but you will be stronger for it.
About The Author
This post was written by Alex from PassionSearch, the dating site. Thanks for reading.