by Dmytro Blackbird
Men cheating some people find naturally essential, especially when these people are also men. Do all men cheat?
On so many ads and subliming advertizing boards in the cities and practically all over the world you can see a guy accompanied with beautiful girls on his right and left hand. Are all these ladies his wife (or wives)? Maybe you have noticed that a good purchase (a car or a conditioner) in the ads video is often accompanied by chic ladies who seem to be accessories to this successful deal… Mass media industry each day demonstrates that men cheating is nothing more than a lovely game in the masculine and patriarchal society. Why do men cheat on women? Just for nothing – the media say.
Why do women need to panic? Cheating is OK these days. Anyway, this way of thinking can cause dangerous family problems, so everyone who has a family should avoid these distributed stereotypes. The experts say that men cheating result in family problems and divorces. A strong family is based on understanding and cooperation. Anyway, why do guys cheat? Approximately 40% of men seek sexual satisfaction outside their relationships, estimates Kat Hertlein, professor of human development at the University of Nevada – Las Vegas and a marriage and family therapist. The statistics says that number hasn’t changed much since 1950, when the famous Kinsey sex study found that 50% of U.S. men cheat at some point in their marriages.
Reasons men cheat could be really different and significant. To some extent man cheating has become a social myth multiplied by media. All the answers on this question that are circulating in media could be defined as these: men are not ready to have commitments; men no longer feel satisfied/stimulated in their current relationship and are too cowardly to end the relationship; men are concerned about their financial/living situation if they end the relationship, but do not feel fulfilled in it; men like various sex partners; men need to feel desired and their partner does not fulfill that need; men are single-minded and don’t think about the consequences of their actions; guys cheat because many of them increasingly feel powerless in a society that is giving women more rights and powers in the domestic spheres; having sex with more than one woman is an ego boost for those with low self-esteem.
All these factors say that even married men cheat and lie. They are supposed to cheat sexually, psychologically, and socially.
The experts say that men crave sexual “variety” to survive psychologically. This is a key point in men cheating. We need to be aware that men live in their masculine society and follow its rules. For example, when all/some man’s friends cheat or his colleagues in the office cheat, this provokes a man to start cheating also. Our surrounding and our background make us think in this or that way.
Sometimes, even ladies want a man to cheat. But this is rather possible and acceptable when that man is ‘free.’ However, this could make a big problem if the man has a family. Women flirting with men orient them to behave in a tricky cheating way. For some ladies it gives a new challenge and driver.
Why do men cheat on women or girlfriends? It happens quiet often because girlfriends also want to be partners in this game of cheating. To psychology experts, cheating is a play, a game based on competence and partnership. But this game could have a drastic final remarks for the wife and children, because man cheating provokes conflicts in the family. What is more, it creates the atmosphere of unfaithfulness.
Women love man who are outgoing and communicative. On the other hand, these men are supposed to cheat much more often. Especially when after a ten-year family life that want to have something new because their wife is not so energetic and beautiful as she was. Men like to play is fire, this instinct is in their mind, blood, and bones.
In American and European cultures, we have such a social model of masculine behavior called ‘machismo.’ This means that the cultural frames make a young man behave as a macho. Men are supposed to be strong to be able to defend their families. But strongmen sometimes are not family defenders but egocentric guys who want to demonstrate their unique muscles and bright personality to gain a social goal. And women could be featured just like a goal, a target and not a family partner. If a man accepts these rules and he behaves as macho, then he could have all social and sexual benefits. You know that these days sex does not belong to something sacred in the society and it is not an in-family asset.
Men who are ‘macho’ could have sex, power, and money, they can play a role of celebrities. Al this makes a conclusion that such a simple psychological problem as men cheating has deep roots in culture matrices. Men are the victims of the media, and media dictate that you always need to be cool and independent. This means that cheating is one of the possible ways to be a ‘bad boy’ who has benefits from ‘free’ ladies.
Anyway, the problem roots could be much easier sometimes. Men cheat because they want to have their life like a permanent fiesta. They want to have a festive atmosphere of burlesque. It happens very often when a wife also works hard and she cannot create this atmosphere of lovely happiness. She can come home also in the evening and want to have a peaceful time with her darling. This psychological disconnection may provoke family conflicts and men cheating. But men should take into account that family life is based on mutual understanding, or else it is not reasonable to have a family life. So if one part of the family experiences any difficulty then the second partner needs to provide a kind of emotional support.
Why married men cheat and lie? Answers can be significantly different. Some men do not understand and share family values. It is also possible that these men experiences something negative when they were young. Maybe their parents were divorced and father cheated. In this case, family happy is based on wife’s psychological masterpiece. She has to explain the family rules without any pressure and ‘dictatorship.’ Men cheating is connected with the level of wife’s cleverness and her ability to stop the cheating instinct. Family is based on mutual understanding of a couple in love. And for people who love cheating is very harmful. Only sincere relations and family tolerance can avoid men cheating.
P.S. It’s thought that about 60% of men cheat on their partners – and 70% of wives don’t have a clue. Is your guy ever-true… or a sneaky cheat? Take the cheating quiz to find out.