by Dmytro Blackbird
Family life is based on fidelity and understanding between at least two people. Violence or infidelity ruins this atmosphere of harmony. And, as a result, family may be drastically destroyed. One of the most serious reasons in this marriage catastrophe is cheating. Men cheating and women cheating are very common these days. This issue has been analyzed and discussed in many books and ‘talk’ shows. Why do people who were falling in love a month ago start cheating after marriage? What happens in their lives and in their mentality? What makes people cheat?
Let’s start our brief discussion about women cheating. Why do women cheat? In some cultures, it is believed that only women can cheat. Nowadays the psychologists and family experts name several most important problems that provide answers. Women infidelity in marriage can be explained by these key features: ‘infernal’ women nature, social instability in family life, psychological misunderstanding, sexual disconnections, and masculine business. All these factors to come extent make women cheat and behave in an inadequate manner in family life. What is more, some doctors say that the social standards these days in a global sense make people bee free. So this freedom transforms into sexual freedom even after marriage. Men and women are supposed to cheat by the social rules. Anyway, let’s firstly discuss the inner widely spread problems related to women cheating and not the global trends we have these days.
‘Infernal’ women nature
Sometimes, we can hear that women are structured to cheat. This means that there is a kind of infernal power inside women that moves them to behave in this way. Women infernal beauty makes men be like silly boys (even if they have wives and children). This stereotype is constructed in many European and American country. In the eastern countries, we know that according to the local traditions women are not allowed to show their beauty to other men except for the family. So, speaking in a global way, women beauty is considered to have some magic patterns that can destroy family life. Even more than that. As we know from the world history, women were supposed to be witched in the Middle Ages and later.
As the world thinkers say, all these explanations were created by men to demonstrate their prudence and ‘virginity’. Men cannot cheat, but cheating comes from women side. Women make men be so weak and silly. These cultural masks and stereotypes have been used by men community for many centuries. And the feministic twist and gender studies destroyed it paying attention that men wanted to protect themselves for centuries using this myth. Infernal women nature as a source for women cheating is a male project and male interpretation of women behavior.
Social instability in family life
However, sometimes family life deteriorates. And women infidelity in marriage is a serious problem. Why do women cheat? As we know, family is a small copy of the entire world; it is like a small community that can be compared with the all world. Family life is based on some social rules and conventions. If we have a kind of social instability in the world, then this me be resulted in strikes, riots, or wars. The same processes occur in family. If a husband cannot support his family, if he is rejected from the social position of his social status is poor, then his wife has to find any solution. Women are more structured to think about children and family. So, lack of financial support pushes women to find another ‘sponsor’ for her and her children. Women make all possible to organize the stability even in the not authorized manner. This, of course, provokes women infidelity in marriage. In fact, women prostitution is also supposed to be a form of living on. Women decide to ‘sell’ their bodies to be able to find any financial benefit for their parents (who are old and weak) or children (when the husband leaves a family without any financial perspective.)
Psychological atmosphere in the family is one of the most important factors that guarantee tolerance, fidelity, and happiness between people. Of course, in the dating period people do not think in a strategic way. They just fall in love, and strong feeling seems to be the only way of connection. In family life, love may be not so volcanic and hurricane but people need to find a suitable case for staying together. Psychological balance is a key factor in such situation. It means that people must rely on each other; they must behave taking into account other’s preferences. When she is sleeping and you need to go—do it in a silent way. When you are tired and she asks you to repair something in the room—try to find a compromise not to become a victim of permanent strikes and family battles. Aggressiveness provokes family separation. In this way, when the psychological atmosphere is not positive and the temperature of family quarrels is beyond any measure, then cheating is the only way to have the mental balance inside you. Women become shy and they behave in a modest way. They do not cry and do not break the lovely vases or plates. Sometimes, this situates when women find someone else who understands their inner psychological world. Sexuality is the only sphere of connection between woman and her lover which helps people not to talk about constant family problems and necessities.
Of course, sexual harmony is also an important factor that annihilates women cheating. Some women have strong sexual desires and some have modest sexuality. In different ages, this proportion may change. Sexual disorders in family life lead to stresses and aggressive and intolerant atmosphere. Why do women cheat? Because they want someone whose sexuality is mighty equivalent. Some women need a macho-lover who realizes all sexual ‘phantasms.’ Disproportion in sexual energies in the family life, as the sexologists say, becomes a serious problem these days. People live in a constant haste, aridity, and disenchantment. In this way, when a husband comes come deeply at night after long business conferences and talks, what ne needs is a natural sleep. But if your husband is a head of the company, this may cause a problem that provokes women infidelity in marriage. In commuter families, women can live too far from their husbands. Not all women are ready to accept this game. Or perhaps it seems that they can but in the end commuter families become destroyed as a result of women infidelity and cheating when men struggle for business interests.
In the end…
In this way, finally, we can see that women infidelity in marriage is a commonly spread phenomenon in the contemporary world based on different social, psychological, and sexual disorders and misunderstandings. Why do women cheat? Because they cannot find family harmony and they cannot realize their potential desires and roles (in social sphere or sex). The reasons may be different and unexpected. This article spotlights just several points according to the world statistics of women cheating motivations.