Being a beautiful relationship, a married life is something that every couple dreams to be spent in a wonderful way. But we all need to be highly realistic and should be aware of the problems or issues that arise in this relationship. There are many people struggling from their marriage, especially when they are the only ones to protect the relationship. So, if you are the one who really wants to save your relationship, check out the tips that might work for you.
If your spouse wants’ a divorce and you don’t, what should you do?
Of course, you want it to be saved. You are confused, afraid, and hopeless, but the truth is it is never too late to make your wife reconsider her decision.
For the most couples, relationship breakdown can be a very emotional and a stressful time. They have not thought about this because of the blissfulness they enjoy in their married life. Although getting separation seems like a good option since so many of us are doing it, but as far as outcomes are concerned, it is the least effective way to solve your martial differences.
Saving your marriage not only avoids social, psychological, financial, and spiritual damages that a divorce might do. It’s worthy to say that your children are one of the main reasons why your marriage differences must be sorted out.
We all know that divorce and separation could have serious effects on children’s minds and later they might not lead a normal life, which is why you are obliged to do whatever it takes to save your relationship.
Your wife demands divorce, what now?
Indeed, none can guarantee to save your marriage or let your partner change her decision. But if one person is ready to make positive changes then amazing things can happen.
Women are not as logical and straightforward as men, maybe your wife is not asking for a separation.
Do remember that whatever tricks and techniques we are going to discuss depends on specific circumstances and reasons that will ultimately determine how difficult it will be to turn up the tide. Get along with these tips and you will definitely through it, it doesn’t have to be the end.
1. Restart with What She really wants not what you think.
Making her pressurized to stay with you while throwing down yourselves on your knees, begging her to stay in the marriag, is not the solution The best thing you can do here is staying focused and keeping up your dignity being a strong individual.
Your wife might get unimpressed by your groveling confidence. It is natural to react desperately when your wife wants a divorce, however this desperate attitude might turn your wife off further and more determined to call of this marriage.
2. Do not Rely on Divorce Lawyers and Marriage Counselor:
May be you have seen miracles, but a very few of the struggling couples get anything out from that marriage counseling. Though, some of the counselors are good at it, but there it takes equal effort and enthusiasm to make a difference, even that’s also not sure.
Here it is worth mentioning that, Yes, marriage counseling can be effective, but when it is used as a preventive measure and not as a treatment for solving marriage problems.
3. Sometimes Staying Close is not the Solution:
You might have heard this before that sometimes being more honest can also put you in trouble. Open communication is not the solution and it would not be too easy. How great it would be that only a single communication can solve all your problems, but it is not that much easy.
If (for the time being) being together is not giving you a solution, then spend some time with your mates and parents. Get yourself confident first.
4. Make Her Happy and Seek Her Love
Finally, here is what you really want to do; just be happy and seek her attitude of love.
You must have gone through the communication or counseling, did it work?
Your wife will only respond to you and your actions. Do not spoil your confidence. For getting her back, you need to let her go. Let her realize that she needs you to the same extent as you need her.
5. Change Yourself into a Aan that She Loved:
Attraction is the key in saving your marriage. To reignite your pre-existing attraction, you need to remember and live those moments like;
The first time you met your wife.
The first time you kissed her.
Recalling these moments will eventually make your life much easier,and will make you understand what is missing and where things can get improved.
Still feeling tangled in this whole mess? Well, it is quite normal. Marriage problems and especially that divorce one can put anyone in a difficult situation. If you really want to fix your marriage, you need to understand marriage is a life long journey.
You need to change the way you had been dealing your better half with your interactions and communication towards her. And then only you can change the way your wife is thinking now.
Sarah Campbell is a former paralegal who enjoys writing about family law and related topics, she currently handles the content for DivorceYes. Her extensive experience as a paralegal to some of the top law firms has given her a sound understanding of matters relating to family law.